You’ve probably done this before: Googled someone you know—maybe a friend from high school, maybe a work colleague—and felt a stab of jealousy when you saw how successful that person is.
The Wikipedia entry mentions your friend is “award-winning,” the testimonials on LinkedIn are glowing, and you can see from the gorgeous photographs that your new stalkee is in perfect health, has none of the wrinkles you have, and has never had a care in life.
So you close the computer feeling really bad about yourself, go to the liquor cabinet, and make yourself a White Russian to drown your sorrows, even though it’s FATTENING and you promised yourself you were going to stop using alcohol as a coping strategy…
I wouldn’t really know.
Because, of course, I’ve never done this. Excuse me one sec—
Now where was I?
I graduated magna cum laude from Cornell University.
I’ve written hundreds of articles in magazines and newspapers, as well as for on-line health sites.
I’ve been published in the New York Times, the Washington Post, and on the cover of Smithsonian magazine.
I was awarded a Fulbright, one of the most prestigious fellowships you can get from the U.S. government, and spent a year living and working overseas, teaching at the university and doing fascinating research.
It is co-written with Dr. Paul Thomas, M.D., a pediatrician who has over 15,000 patients in his Portland-based practice and over 800,000 subscribers on his YouTube Channel.
It sounds impressive, doesn’t it?
I sound “successful.”
But now I have to let you in on a big secret: the success is only a small part of the story, for me, for the friend you just Googled, and for all the people—whether they’re writers, business people, actors, or politicians—you admire the most.
Find the person whose career is most like you want yours to be.
That person looks successful now.
But to get to that success, he or she failed and suffered setbacks more times than you can imagine
If you feel like you’re failing your way to … somewhere or nowhere … you’re not alone.
If you feel like a failure, you’re not alone.
If you feel like you’ve failed a million times already, you’re not alone.
I did a 10-minute podcast called “How to Fail Your Way to Success,” based on a New Year’s talk I gave to Oregon writers about how to bluff, cheat, and fail your way to becoming a more successful writer.
The “How to Fail Your Way to Success” 10-minute podcast is available for free if you sign up for my friend and colleague Kate Hanley’s website.
She asked me and 11 other experts to share some e-tools with her readers about how to improve your mind and change your life.
And though Kate Hanley and the other experts are all yoga and Zen and irie whereas I have a decidedly Type A, worry-too-much, die-young-of-a-stress-related-illness personality, I think you’ll like it.
Now, excuse me while I gulp down some more of this White—I mean coffee—and try to make today’s deadline.